Pinpoint

 I can finally pinpoint what is it about you that everyone wants. You're one of those persons who seems to do what he wants and has a personality (or the role you play) that seems to be larger than life, with a loud presence and a certain aggressive determination, but also with all the other colours of looking as if you actually feel all of that. 

So there's people who wanted to be more like you, while others find you irritatingly pretentious, not special at all, and yet others want you, think you are a leader, crave for your validation or others really hate you. 

I'm starting to see that your "larger than life" characteristic was just something that came onto you by accident.