I loved you totally in everything I saw of you, each thing you showed to be, each thing you showed me that you were. 

(now I realised I push people a little bit on their patience to know who they truly are and then if they show their true colours I can see them and show them they don't have to fear anything and that I liked them just as they truly are. It's a good deconstruction process too.)

Love - synopsis by A. I.

I ran into love because I needed to destroy who I was. - Fyodor Dostoevsky
That’s a powerful and haunting line from Dostoevsky. It touches on the duality of love—how it can feel both redemptive and destructive, liberating and consuming. His words often explore the depths of human emotion, where even the purest feelings can carry shadows of our own undoing.

From everything in every field, that you can grasp knowledge , what is love?

Love is one of humanity’s most profound and debated emotions—a force that has been explored in philosophy, science, art, and spirituality for millennia. There’s no single answer, but here are some perspectives from different fields to help grasp its essence:

Philosophy

Love is often framed as a pursuit of the good, the true, or the beautiful. Thinkers like Plato saw it as a ladder of ascent—from physical attraction to intellectual and spiritual connection. Others, like Erich Fromm, described it as an active choice to commit, care, and know another person, rather than just a feeling. For Simone de Beauvoir, love could also be a battleground of power and freedom.
Plato’s Symposium: Love (Eros) is a desire for beauty and immortality, beginning with attraction to a single body and expanding to love of all beautiful things, including wisdom.
Fromm’s The Art of Loving: Love is a skill that requires knowledge, effort, and maturity. It’s not just a feeling but a conscious decision to nurture another’s growth and well-being.

Psychology
Psychologists break love into components:
Attachment Theory: Love is rooted in early bonds with caregivers. Secure attachments foster healthy relationships, while insecure ones can lead to patterns of anxiety or avoidance.
Triangular Theory of Love (Sternberg): Love has three elements—intimacy (emotional closeness), passion (physical/romantic drive), and commitment (decision to maintain the relationship). Different combinations create different types of love (e.g., companionate love vs. romantic love).
Oxytocin: The “bonding hormone” released during physical touch, childbirth, and social bonding, often called the “love molecule.”
Neuroscience
Love is a chemical cocktail in the brain:
Dopamine: Creates euphoria and craving (like addiction).
Serotonin: Low levels during infatuation may explain obsessive thoughts.
Oxytocin and Vasopressin: Foster trust and long-term bonding.
fMRI scans show that early romantic love lights up the brain’s reward system, similar to cocaine. Long-term love activates areas linked to attachment and calmness.

Biology/Evolution
From an evolutionary standpoint, love may have developed to:
Ensure survival: Pair-bonding increases the likelihood of raising offspring.
Foster cooperation: Love strengthens social bonds, which aid group survival.
Reduce stress: Physical touch and emotional support lower cortisol levels.

Spirituality/Religion
Love is often seen as divine or transformative:
Christianity: “God is love” (1 John 4:8). Love is selfless (agape), modeled by Jesus’ sacrifice.
Buddhism: Love (metta) is compassionate kindness toward all beings, free from attachment.
Hinduism: Love (bhakti) is devotion to the divine, often expressed through rituals and surrender.
Sufism: Love is the path to union with the divine, a burning passion that purifies the soul.

Art and Literature
Love is portrayed as:
Tragic (e.g., Romeo and Juliet, Tristan and Isolde): A force that defies reason and leads to ruin.
Transcendent (e.g., Song of Solomon, Rumi’s poetry): A mystical union that elevates the soul.
Everyday (e.g., Pride and Prejudice): A slow-burning, imperfect connection that grows with time.
Modern Definitions
Contemporary thinkers often blend these views:
bell hooks: Love is a verb—an act of will and commitment to justice, care, and mutual growth.
Esther Perel: Love is a dance between security and freedom, where too much closeness can feel suffocating, and too much distance can feel lonely.
Psychologist Lisa Firestone: Love requires differentiation—holding onto your identity while deeply connecting with another.

Love in the Digital Age
Today, love is also shaped by technology:
Dating apps have democratized access to potential partners but can also commodify relationships.
Social media creates performative love (e.g., public displays of affection) while fostering comparison and insecurity.
AI and virtual relationships challenge traditional notions of intimacy and connection.

A Paradox
Dostoevsky’s quote—“I ran into love because I needed to destroy who I was”—captures love’s duality:
It can liberate us, helping us grow beyond our limitations.
It can consume us, stripping away our sense of self in pursuit of fusion with another.
It can heal old wounds or reopen them in new ways.
It can feel like home or like a storm.

So many kinds and definitions for Love but truly it has none

 Maybe men don't believe or can't feel a love that isn't physical or based in a physical desire, even if it's just a fantasy, they don't believe in an ethereal love, a perfect force that exists for itself without having any need to have consequence in the material aspect. 

For it to be truly it in its essence, Love should always transcend and not be only an immediate physical attraction. 

But the best is (and was in my cases) when it transcends first and then becomes physical too. Those are the loves that mark you for life. 

 I ran into love because I needed to destroy who I was. - Fyodor Dostoevsky 

My pledge to you

Dear beloved,

 I will never tell you, by my initiative, what to do again. I will always seek to ask you about your will in everything that is ultimately required. I will respect everything of and about you. I will never hinge your freedoms. I will always be there for you when you want me too and if you need me to and say it clearly. I'll always listen to you.

You can always make any question you want for me to answer. You can always count on me to support you whenever you want my support. You can always be honest with me about everything you are and feel at any moment without any judgement of my part. You can always tell what you think about me and any issues related to me.

To be kind

 The fact that I am kind 

Doesn't mean I am blind

To all the cruelty inside 

Of everyone I came across 

Is there?

 Is there a reality where you and I are together? Yes, there has been already, that's why we can't now. And that's the most tragic thing. 

 Maybe it's true that men can't love women for themselves. They only lust them, or need them for some other reason, but they never love them as they are, for who they truly are. And, mind you, saying you love someone despite their flaws isn't loving someone at all. 

The irritating people who are snobs

 If anything, our story was the most stupid thing I ever been through.. I mean, what a freaking disgrace. Just a bad comedy, tragic, with collateral damage too. I mean, how the hell are we supposed to get to know the other people if we don't show up, mingle, interact and ask some things also when in doubt? You who are putting others down by making exclusive groups and telling who can and can't be in them for no reason of valid importance, are fascists. And you were okay with that and other cruel behaviour, also doing it yourself. And that's why I feel there's no justice on this earth as well. 

 And to love again

would be finding home

just by holding someone 

with a hug or by the hand

that feeling one knows 

for the first time 

it will be forever 

and though I know 

that love doesn't exist 

I also had loves 

and loves had me

because I couldn't resist 

to the sweet fever 

that makes one believe