Extroverted? Here are some tips on how to be more quiet and reflective.

 Every now and then, all around, I notice titles of articles giving advice to introverts on how to become more social. The message is usually subtle but clear: speak more, mingle more, participate more. As if it's bad, as if the quiet, reflective temperament needs to be adjusted so it can better fit a world that rewards constant interaction. For a change, I would love to see the opposite kind of article. Not because it is absolutely wrong with being extroverted. Social energy, spontaneity, and enthusiasm can be beautiful qualities, as long as they don't mean narcissistic traits. But contemplation is an incredibly valuable human capacity, and it is often overlooked. Being quiet is not the same as being empty or dull. Quite the opposite. Silence is often where observation, sensitivity, and creativity grow. When we slow down enough to listen instead of rushing to respond, we begin to notice subtle things: the tone behind someone’s words, the rhythm of a place, the emotions that move quietly beneath everyday conversations.
As someone who naturally leans toward quietness, I’ve always experienced that listening is a form of being present. It is a way of respecting the moment and the people around us. When we listen deeply, we allow others to unfold at their own pace. We also allow our own thoughts to mature before we express them.
So if I were to write advice for someone very extroverted who wanted to explore the contemplative side of life - besides living a more slow life, enjoying more time looking at the sky, the birds and just observing the surroundings - , it might look something like this:

- First, try leave space in conversations. Silence is not something that needs to be filled immediately. Sometimes a pause invites a deeper thought to appear.

- Second, spend a small portion of your day without stimulation. No phone, no music, no conversation. Just observing. It can be surprising how much clarity comes from a few minutes of stillness.

- Third, practice listening without being already preparing your reply. Simply receive what the other person is saying. This alone can transform how conversations feel. Be less vain and don't impose your opinions.

And finally, remember that reflection is not withdrawal. It is simply another way of engaging with the world, one that moves more slowly, but often more deeply.
Perhaps the healthiest way to live is not by pushing introverts to become louder or extroverts to become quieter, but by allowing both qualities to exist and learn from each other.
The world needs enthusiasm and conversation.But it also needs silence, listening, and contemplation.
And sometimes the most meaningful things emerge from the quiet spaces between words. By the way, read more books 😄

PS: Do take notice of the tone of your voice. If you tend to speak louder than others, maybe you should analyse deeply why you do that and speak in a more pacing way.